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I’ve been hearing this a lot lately and it may or may not surprise you to know that this is not an uncommon feeling to have at some time in your life. When we go through changes such as divorce or relationship break-up, becoming a mother, children growing up and leaving home or changing careers, our sense of self may be a bit rocky for a time. This is because our sense of identity is often to some degree based on the roles we play in life – mother, wife, manager, accountant, coach, receptionist, entrepeneur and so the list goes on. Without a strong core identity, that is based on knowing ourselves and who we are, apart from the roles we play, we may struggle, a lot or a little during times of change.

Going through a period of change, can actually be an opportunity to connect more with your inner strengths and resources, that can support you in moving forward. Taking some time out from the everyday busyness of life, to check in with yourself and what is going on for you and what you are needing, can be a good starting point. A great question to ask is – What am I needing right now? The answer might surprise you.

How would your life change if you took time for you, to listen to yourself as you would to a good friend and to what you are needing in this moment. It’s really about building a relationship with yourself, listening to yourself, what makes you feel good, what nourishes you and what doesn’t feel good.

Journalling can be a great tool during times of change. Just letting the words flow onto the page, letting the feelings flow.

At such times, it can also help to have assistance or just someone to talk to. Again, it’s about listening to what you are needing and following through on that. For each person it will look different, for one, it may be coffee with a friend, for another, a group where you can share and find support, for another a counsellor, coach or therapist may be appropriate.


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